Came across this amazingly positive article, “To My Friend Who Chooses To Be Childfree“, by Swati Chauhan in The Huffington Post India.

I also wanted to tell you how much I admire your vision and clarity of thought. Coming from a country that worships motherhood and reserves a large proportion of its respect for women on the basis of their fertility and child-bearing capacity, it takes more than just good thinking or strong beliefs to make such a decision work. It takes courage.

It’s a very nice change for a CF person to be referred to as courageous and visionary. With all the negative feedback we get, articles like this are one in a million.

Why is it so difficult to accept that some people are just not made to become parents, some are just good doctors, talented painters, great writers or adventurous travellers. I am sure we need more people in all these categories. You see, we need everything except unwanted babies!


Why the world would want another unwanted, uncared for child is beyond my comprehension. Wouldn’t it be better if we left the choice to the couple involved and instead concentrated on the little angels that we have already been blessed with? Shouldn’t we be more concerned about the welfare of the existing children in this country before we ask another woman when she is planning to have a baby?

Thank you Swati Chauhan, you are now one of my most favorite people on earth. Hopefully someday more people will be as understanding as you.